Condolence messages · $9.99
Three condolence messages, written for one person
For the card you have been holding for two days. Three short messages in three different tones, shaped from what you tell us — choose the one that sounds like you.
Delivered within 24 hours · Written by a person · Secure and confidential
Why this is hard
Everyone writes the same four words
You have bought the card. It has been on the kitchen table since Tuesday. Everything you try either sounds like a form letter or says far too much, and the longer you leave it the harder it gets to send anything at all.
Tell us who it is for, what they are going through and what you know about the person who died. We send back three short messages — one simple, one more personal, one more reflective — so you can choose by feel rather than start from nothing.
What you receive
Three messages, three tones
Simple
Short, warm and safe for any relationship — a colleague, a neighbour, someone you do not know well. Around 20 to 30 words.
More personal
Uses the detail you gave us. This is usually the one people send, because it proves you were paying attention.
More reflective
A little quieter and a little longer, for someone close to you, or for the second message a week after the funeral when everyone else has stopped writing.
Ready to send anywhere
A sympathy card, a text message, the note that goes with flowers, or a comment on a memorial page. Use one, or use all three in different places.
How it works
Three steps, done in minutes
1
Share a few details
Who the message is for, your relationship to them, and anything you would like mentioned. One sentence is enough. Nothing is charged at this point.
2
We write your three
A writer shapes your details into three messages, each with a different tone — not three versions of the same sentence.
3
Choose and send
They arrive within 24 hours. Send the one that fits, adjust it in your own words, or keep the others for later.
Ready when you are
Less than the price of the flowers
Three Condolence Messages
20–30 words each
$9.99
One simple, one more personal, one more reflective — all written from the details you send.
✓ Written by a person, not generated
✓ Use one or use all three
✓ Delivered within 24 hours
Get my three messagesNothing is charged until we confirm · What you share is never published or reused
Something else in mind?
Two neighbouring services
Remembering your own loss
If you are the one grieving rather than the one writing to a griever, a tribute poem of 60 to 80 words suits an anniversary or a birthday.
Telling people it happened
Before the condolences arrive there is the announcement to write — one for social media, one for the newspaper, one for cards and letters.
Before you order
Questions about condolence messages
How long is each message?
Between 20 and 30 words — two or three sentences. Long enough to mean something, short enough to fit on a card without crowding it.
Can you write for different kinds of relationship?
Yes. A colleague, a close friend, a neighbour or an acquaintance all need a different level of formality, and the messages are written to the one you describe.
What if I barely know the family?
Say so. That is useful information, not a problem — it changes what the message should claim and keeps it from sounding falsely intimate.
Why three messages rather than one?
Because tone is personal and hard to judge in advance. Seeing three side by side makes the choice obvious in a way that reading one never does.
Can I use more than one?
Many people do — one in the card, one in a text, one on a memorial page. They are all yours.
What do you write in a sympathy card for a coworker?
Keep it warm and short: acknowledge the loss, say you are thinking of them, and lift a practical worry if you can, such as not to think about work this week. If you did not know the person who died, do not claim to.
Should I mention the person who died by name?
Yes, wherever you can. Many grieving people say hearing the name is a comfort rather than a hurt, because it tells them the person is remembered.
What is the difference between condolence and sympathy?
In practice they mean the same thing. Condolence is the more formal word and often used in writing; sympathy is more everyday. Either is right on a card.
Is it too late to send condolences weeks later?
No. A late message is far better than none, and often arrives when the support has dried up. Start simply, without a long apology: I have been thinking of you since I heard about your mother.
When do I pay?
Not on this site. You send your request first, we check we can take it on, then email a secure payment link — usually within 20 minutes to 3 hours. No link within 3 hours means our schedule is full, and you are welcome to try again in 48 hours.
Writing a condolence message
What to write in a condolence message, and what not to
A simple shape that works
Say their name. Say you are sorry. Add one true thing: a memory, a quality, something they used to say. Close with care and, if you mean it, a specific offer of help. Two or three sentences is enough.
Phrases to avoid
They are in a better place, everything happens for a reason, and I know how you feel are meant kindly but often land badly. So does turning the message towards your own loss. Plain and warm is better than clever.
Is a text or an email acceptable?
For a colleague or an acquaintance, yes, and it is far kinder than saying nothing. For someone close, send the quick message now and a handwritten card afterwards.
Is it too late to send condolences?
Almost never. Messages slow to a trickle after the funeral, which is when many people feel most alone. A note weeks or months later saying you have been thinking of them is usually welcomed.
Send the card this week
One sentence from you tonight. Three messages to choose from tomorrow.